I'm struggling to come out to my parents as transgender. They're not accepting of LGBTQ people. What should I do?
Thank you for asking this question! We're so sorry you're not getting the support that you need. We understand that coming out can feel scary or isolating.
If you don’t feel comfortable telling your parents, maybe you can start with talking to another trusted adult. This person might be a mentor, teacher, school counselor, or older sibling. Talking with this trusted adult could possibly help you practice what you want to say. And it is very likely this person can help you and support you if/when you decide to talk to your parents.
If you live in the Boulder area, it would be worth checking out OASOS. This is a weekly peer support group for questioning, queer, intersex, pansexual, transgender, bisexual, lesbian and gay youth. The groups are available on a drop-in basis, so you can attend whenever you feel comfortable. It is safe, confidential and free. OASOS is a great opportunity to meet other LGBTIQ youth, gain support from peers and LGBTIQ adult mentors, and have fun through a variety of educational and social activities. If you have any other questions about the group, please don’t hesitate to call their office at (303) 579-2676.
Whatever you do, know that people are here for you. You can always visit Teen Clinic to talk with our non-judgmental, friendly, and caring health care professionals. Know that you have support and resources in the community so you don’t have to go through it alone.
How do I know if I'm bisexual?
Sexuality is complicated, and can be confusing! At Teen Clinic, we encourage youth to define their sexuality however they like. Exploring your sexuality with different people is one way to tell who you're attracted to and how you want to identify sexually. But it's also important to remember that the ways you find pleasure don't mean you have to fit in some box or category of sexual preference. Sometimes people know very early on that they are gay or straight or bi (or anything else) and sometimes it takes people their whole lives to figure it out.