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I'm a girl and I haven't ever been able to orgasm. Could something be wrong with me?

It often takes a really long time for people, especially female-bodied people, to learn what is pleasurable to them and what works best to achieve orgasm. Various studies have shown that approximately 20% of women orgasm from penetrative sex alone, so if you're having vaginal sex and you're not able to orgasm from that, you're not alone. Lots of of people need many other forms of stimulation besides penetration to achieve orgasm. This is because penetration does not always stimulate the clitoris, which is the central point of female pleasure.


Masturbation is a great way to explore what is most stimulating to you, and if you have a partner, try your best to communicate what feels good and what isn't working. You can also experiment with sex toys to see what feels good. Lubrication can help a lot with any discomfort if you're having vaginal sex.


Even though this process can be frustrating, try to be patient! Lots of people are in the same boat.

If you get a vasectomy does that mean you can't ejaculate anymore? ​

Nope! The only change is that a person who has had a vasectomy won't have any sperm in their ejaculate. Otherwise, everything is the same (and there's no change in how orgasm feels).​

What is squirting? ​

Squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is when the urethra expels a small amount of fluid during orgasm in the female body.  The fluid that is released is a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine. It is released by the Skene’s gland, which is located at the lower end of the urethra. Because of the pressure on the urethra, some people report feeling like they need to pee right before they squirt. In the small number of studies that have been conducted on female ejaculation, it is estimated that about 10% of female-bodied people squirt when they orgasm.  

Is it normal to experience extreme fatigue after orgasm? ​

Fatigue is indeed one of the side effects of orgasm for some people. However, if it doesn't wear off and you're feeling fatigued constantly, you should talk to a medical provider.

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