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Sex hurts for me and I can't figure out why. Is it supposed to hurt? My vagina gets so sore from penetration.

First of all, sex should not hurt or be uncomfortable, and it's important to communicate with your parter about how it feels so you don't continue unless you're comfortable. Pain during sex can be due to a variety of factors. If your vagina hurts, one common reason is lack of lubrication during penetration. Sometimes during arousal, the vagina does not produce enough lubrication to reduce the friction and make sex more comfortable. You could try buying some lubricant (you can find it where condoms are found in most grocery stores/pharmacies) and see if that helps.


Pain during sex could be due to an infection, including a sexually transmitted infection. Alternatively, you may be experiencing an allergic reaction to a soap or fabric from your underwear that makes it painful to have sex.


If sex feels extremely painful or near impossible, you may be experiencing something called vaginismus. This is a pretty uncommon condition. Vaginismus is when the muscles surrounding the vagina spasm in response to penetration. 

If you're experiencing pain that doesn't go away--especially after trying lube--or if it gets worse, we recommend making an appointment with one of our providers.

What does it mean if it hurts to pee?

Pain during urination can be a symptom of certain infections. A urinary tract infection causes a burning, painful sensation when you urinate. Certain STIs, such as Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, can also cause pain when you pee. If the pain continues, we recommend making an appointment to see one of our providers.

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